Christian/Muslim ThreadsMuhammad on trial: Part 1.
The meaning of Khitbah or as translated a proposal is for the man to make his intention known that he wants to marry a certain girl. The proposal can take place by the boy approaching the girl’s Wali (guardian) and making known his intention to marry. Or he can via his family make the request for marriage. There are no specific words one uses for the Khitbah or specific procedure. Shari’ah leaves the options open.
Remember, the proposal is not the marriage, but the making known of the intention to marry. The boy and girl still remain as non-Mahrams.
and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best
Shaykh Irshad Amod
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According to the Shari'ah, engagement is permissible. In Islamic terminology it is called "Khitbah" which literally means "seeking someone for marriage." Khitbah is mentioned in the Qur'an (al-Baqarah 2:235) and in a number of Ahadith. According to the Shari'ah, there is no fixed time for engagement. It could be a very short time or a long time, depending on the situation and local customs. It is allowed for a man and woman to see each other for the purpose of engagement. They can also find out more about each other through their relatives and mutual friends. However, it is haram for the engaged couples to be alone with each other. Engagement is not marriage and until nikah is performed they are not halal to each other. Engaged people can talk to each other on telephone. They can also write to each other and they can meet in the presence of other adult relatives. In their letters and phone conversations they should observe Haya' (modesty and decency).
http://www.pakistanlink.com/religion/97/re09-19-97.html
Khitbah: This is engagement whereby the man and woman decide to get engaged to marry at their convenient time. During this time, they and their families try to know each other. During the time of engagement, the couple is not married and they are not allowed to be alone with each other. It is forbidden for them to have intimate relations during this time. The parties can break the engagement without going through the process of divorce or talaq. They should return the engagement ring and other gifts, but this can be waived if there is mutual agreement and understanding.
http://www.islamonline.net/fatwa/englis ... waID=98489
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