Aineo,
As I recall, the Bible labels many things as sin, from disbelief in God to being overly wealthy. Not all of those things are illegal, nor so vehemently opposed by Christians.
And I find the "gay men can't commit" argument to be weak... especially since I'm not a man. Even if I were, I'd think I'd be thoroughly offended by someone saying "You can't get married, because gay relationships only last X number of years -- on average." What about all the gay male couples who are in long-term relationships, despite your belief in their "inherent instability"? Would you really say that to them?
Webmaster,
I'm not asking for "information." I'm asking why you, personally, oppose my right to marriage. I'm asking you to look me in the virtual eye and <I>justify</I> it to me, not because I need your validation, but because I am frustrated and angry with what I see as blatant inequality. And because you represent an apparent majority, and you seem to find the justice of that inequality to be so obvious that it doesn't even bear explaining.
Humor me. Please. Tell me <I>why</I> I can't get married, and shouldn't ever be able to. When doing so, please remember that I am <I>not</I> a Christian, that I <I>don't</I> want a "church wedding," that I am looking for the <I>secular</I> marriage rights I would have even as an atheist -- if only I were straight.
Episcopalian,
I can't imagine how I overlooked that little gem on my first read-through. Well, I'm sure you'll find it difficult to imagine, but knowing I'm gay no longer "gnaws like a festering wound on [my] soul" -- an eloquent way of describing the feeling, by the way. I'm simply frustrated that being gay means I've lost a right that I feel is fairly fundamental.