Your understanding of the Bible and women is definitely lacking. Hebrew women had more rights than their contemporaries.
“To thy ownself be true” is found in Scripture: “Love your neighbor as yourself”. I agree that those with a gay orientation need to accept themselves for who they are, but not necessarily for what they do.
Have you considered helping those who struggle come to an understanding of why they have those desires, which in the vast majority of cases can be explained and the roots of the desires can be overcome.
Your 2 cents makes about as much sense as telling an alcoholic or a drug addict to go with the flow.