A word to the wise:
Not everyone who feels same-sex attractions or engages in same-sex behavior IDENTIFIES as being gay. In fact, it's likely that in certain places MOST people who fall in love with and/or have sex with members of the same sex don't admit it or identify themselves as gay.
As you fundies like to point out so often, a large part of being gay has to do with having a social and political identity.
There are many people who do not want to be labeled in this way, which is understandable considering how vicious people like you are in attacking the so-callled "gay lifestyle". Therefore, they don't talk about what they do in their private lives.
Or, if they're someone like (famous ex-gay) John Paulk, they run around claiming to have prayed away the gay, and then get busted cruising for dudes in a seedy gay bar.
-E