Sorry Aieno as I don't know if I can talk in private about this.
For me an ex-gay has no more attraction for the same gender.
For the best of my logic, if you fit in the above definition (also being gay earlier in your life) then you are an ex-gay otherwise you WISH to be (ex-gay)!
I don't want a personal attack here but just the truth. For me changing our sexual attractions is a myth! Isn't it?