beneatiah, I see a lot of assumptions in your post, assumptions that only add fuel to a fire that led to the gay activist movement.
First, no person chooses to deal with gay desires. Second homosexual women are lesbians, homosexual men are gay men and homosexuals applies to both groups as does gay when used for homosexuals in general.
The reason you don't see older gay men and lesbian women in the media is the media focuses on the young. There are a lot of older homosexuals who are not disease ridden or promiscuous and there are also some gay couples that are monogamous and have been throughout their relationships some of which have lasted decades.
I suggest you get a copy of Chad Thompson's book "Loving Homosexuals as Jesus Would" and be part of the solution and not part of the hysteria concerning people who need to hear the gospel not bigoted judgment from those who have not really researched homosexuality and it roots.
God tells us that same gender sexual relationships are a sin, but God has also told Christians that we are not to judge those outside our faith that perogative belongs only to God, have you read 1 Corinthians 5:9-13?