burwelm,
Apparently you and I are not speaking the same language. To overcome that problem would require that we define and agree upon a common language. I leave it up to you whether or not we do such. Unfortunately in the mean time what you say seems to me to be gobbledygook or at least a private jargon that I do not understand and I am sure you feel similarly about what I say even though I try to base my comments and definitions on the Bible. It may be on another occasion/subject we will be able to talk to each other rather than pass each other. So for now let me clarify my position very slightly and leave it at that.
The love I am referring to is the one God had defined in the Bible by Jesus, Paul, John, and others and that I define, as I provide in my above comments, by referring to Paul’s words at 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, “Love is long-suffering and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, 5 does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. 6 It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. 7 It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails. . . .” And John’s words at 1 John 4:8, “. . .God is love.” Yes there are other types of love mentioned in the Bible but they should not be confused with nor are they part of the love I was/am talking about.
The love I was/am talking about is very different from the love you are talking about and that you have your own private definitions for, such as: “love is betraying itself,” “I think that your self is your love,” and also, “Love causes jealousy.” At the very best those definitions are part of some private jargon/opinion and while you certainly are entitled to your jargon/opinion please excuse me for preferring what I find in the Bible to it. Now just in case you still do not get it, let me say it this way: The love that is “not jealous” cannot be the same thing, the same love as the love that “causes jealousy.” The love that “never fails” cannot be the same thing, the same love that “betrays itself.”
Please consider: 1 Corinthians 13:5, AMP: “[Love] is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God's love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].” That means that any and everyone that defends or justifies their use of violence by saying “I am protecting/defending my/your rights/beliefs/values/country/person . . .” Or by saying “I am protecting/defending/redressing because of “a suffered wrong”” and then saying “I love God” is being misled because God’s love is not in them and they, by their actions, in fact are betraying God and his love that they claim to have but do not actually possess. Taking some one’s life is not at the same time showing love for that person. True love cannot be twisted like that.
You say: “Alot of people love God but they don't know how to show the love of God to others.”
Please consider: 1 John 4:20, “If anyone makes the statement: “I love God,” and yet is hating his brother, he is a liar.” (Compare Revelation 21:8) It is not our fickle emotions that Jesus will use to convict us; it is our actions, both committed and omitted. (Compare Matthew 25:42-43, Matthew 7:21-23, and Ezekiel 3:17-21)
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