Okay, I will respond to this post and only this post. Any further discussion concerning me will be through emails only.
On my website Q&A I addressed specific questions, I did not go into all the aspects of my life and why I left gay life; that would take a book and cannot be fully answered on a website.
Loving your neighbor and good works is one of the basic tenets of Christianity so what you shared concerning your personal life is not that unusual. I help my neighbors without considering their faith or lack thereof. I volunteer for the local AIDS foundation, which means I am in contact with gay men with AIDS on a weekly basis. I "love" these men like my own family. They now I am ex-gay and although we disagree on religion we respect each other and work well together as human beings working to help each other and those affected by HIV/AIDS. A person's sexual orientation does not mean they are not worthy of love and respect. Also my youngest brother was gay and died from AIDS related complications, I have an activist lesbian cousin I love and respect and my oldest niece is in a long-term relationship lesbian relationship and we don't let my faith interfere with out personal relationship.
Did I consider that my "loneliness" was due to other factors than my sexuality? Of course I am not an idiot, nor am I a religious bigot. As to financial problems, at the time I started my journey money was not an issue. Money became an issue after I was diagnosed with PCP and my employers of 23 years decided they would not work with me during my recovery and forced me out of a well paying job. That Tommy J was in 2001 or 20 years after I left gay life.
Life is full of challenges and as you pointed out all people regardless of race, gender, sexual orientation or financial position deal with challenges on a daily basis.
1. Have a mentor
2. It's a struggle
3. Believe in God and read the scripturs.
4. Be motivated and willing to do such.
This list deals with those who want to change their sexual orientation and has nothing to do with interpersonal relationships. My website is aimed at those who are seeking Biblical truth and information on how to overcome a behavior they do not want to deal with. My website is not an indictment against the gay community. In fact at least one page on my site deals with homophobic bigotry and the political religious right.
Unlike some Christians who believe that being gay is a decision I understand being gay is not a conscience decision or choice and have never stated it is. You are drawing conclusions based on what you think I believe not what I truly believe.
Now, I have a question for you. Did you read my homepage? If you did then you would have read this:
For my gay visitors, I would like to say thank you for dropping by. What you read here is my rebuttal that change is impossible, harmful, or wishful thinking. Change is possible, but it is not an overnight journey. It is a journey of self-discovery. If you are out, proud, and gay what I share will be offensive to you so go no further. If you are a teen and just coming to grips with your sexuality read on. The suicide rate among teens who cannot reconcile their sexual orientation with their religious faith is the result of bigoted and prejudicial rhetoric that needs to stop. If you are a teen and seeking real answers to the real questions you have about your desires, check my links and plea pages. You will find sites where you can find those answers and a little information about my journey. Suicide is not the answer or the solution. You do have viable alternatives. I have gay friends and relatives, and although we do not agree on this issue, I still love them and they still love me.
Oh, one other comment concerning gay activists picketing those who disagree with them. Have you taken the time to research why the APA changed the DSM III in 1973? If you have then you will have read how gay activists with the aid of gay psychiatrists disrupted APA gatherings and booed secular psychiatrists who were giving presentations on counseling those seeking help with their sexual orientation. In other words Tommy J this decision was not based on sound academic studies or any sound research and was in fact a decision made by the executive committee of the APA not by the full membership. Gay activists have used disruptive tactics to get their own way for decades.