ArchivedOk. Hoping to educate through reasonAineo, I read your website to include your Q & A page. And it seems to me that other than an inability to find companionship, an ongoing health problem, and going through a financial hardship, nothing else lead you from 'being gay to ex-gay' No offense but everyone straight and gay goes through such challenges in life. My sexual orientation is unrelated to getting or losing a job, getting a disease or not, or having financial challenges. On your website you make it sound as though it's as simple or difficult to become 'ex-gay' as it is for a smoker to quit smoking. 1. Have a mentor 2. It's a struggle 3. Believe in God and read the scripturs. 4. Be motivated and willing to do such. Quitting smoking and being gay are vastly different. I didn't wake up one morning and say, hey, I'm gay and attracted to men. I did however make a conscience decision to start smoking in college during late night study groups. I wasn't born a smoker, but I was born gay. I have been and always will be attracted to men. I feel sad for you. You distill gay life on your website as nothing more than a group of people who visit bars all the time, drink, and do nothing socially positive what-so-ever. Last weekend, my partner Ronald and I: a. replaced the plastic on his mother's roof because the roof is leaking and she cannot afford a new roof right now. b. went bowling with a mixed group of gay/straight friends c. went to church, a non gay church mind-you where the pastor has come to respect me and our partnership, despite the fact I'm an Athiest, but I do this out of love and respect for he and his family. d. Helped a single mother neighbor by watch her children so she could go to work. e. made minor repairs on our home, washed dishes, fixed dinner, and watched the latest Harry Potter movie and a couple of ST shows on cable for which I hadn't yet seen. None of these activities included going to the bar, excessive drinking, and aborrant or illegal behaviors as you describe that lead to lonileness. Have you ever considered that perhaps that your lonliness had nothing to do with that fact that you 'were-gay' as opposed to perhaps the people you elected to associate it. People who choose bad activities come both gay and straight. People who go to bars every weekend are both gay and straight. Lonley people come both gay and straight. (50% divorce rate in USA) and people who have financial or health challenges are both as well. It's a pitty that you blame the above on your 'gayness' at the time as opposed to misfortune and/or bad choices. |
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