Well, now we now what kind of spirit is speaking from you, Kerry!
I think the Bible tells us we are to avoid a contentious person.
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Sophie you are right about the Genesis record in the third chapter being used as an excuse for fatalism, otherwise known as Reformed theology or Calvinism. I was shocked about ten years ago or so to learn what Calvinism taught and spent two years, literally, searching and reading my Bible, with Concordances, other translations -- everything I could get my hands on -- to find out if Calvinism was right. The Bible denies it start to finish. I have 'discussed' Calvinism with Calvinists online, on different forums. They tend to get incredibly rude because after all, they are the chosen and the rest of the poor suckers in the world are not.
My reaction to that, from a biblical and logical point of view, include two essays my husband put up on his website. They might help:
http://www.setterfield.org/calvinism.htm
http://www.setterfield.org/elect.htm