Lanie,
Welcome to the forums and thankyou so much for your imput into this thread. Mary was indeed only obedient. Her simple words "Let it be to me as you have said". She knew what that obedience might mean, she knew would it would cost her, but she was willing to obey what God told her she must do.
I'm not sure if you know, but the discussion here is a continuation of discussion on who the Triune Godhead is. Many in Islam believe that Christians believe the Triune Godhead to be God, Mary and Jesus. The subject of who Mary really is, is being discussed in this thread. Omya and others have shown us what some of the Catholic Church believes (she is Muslim) in relation to Mary and the the others of us have tried to show that it's only part of the so called church that believe Mary is anything more than the earthly human mother of Jesus, who as you said, was just an obedient young woman who was willing to sacrifice the love of her betrothed to be obedient, to God.
Welcome again, and hope this helps you join in the conversation.
Carol