Gay Relationship
I have been in a gay relationship for over 10 years and we don't have anymore problems than a straight couple. Of course we live in the San Francisco Bay Area and that helps as far as bigotry goes. Why do you say gay relationships have more issues than staight ones? Have you seen the latest figures on divorce rates? Did you know the divorce rate is higher in the Christian community? The following is data from Religioustolerance.org:
"Divorce rates among Christian groups:
The slogan: "The family that prays together, stays together" is well known. There has been much anecdotal evidence that has led to "unsubstantiated claims that the divorce rate for Christians who attended church regularly, pray together or who meet other conditions is only 1 or 2 percent". 8 [Emphasis ours]. Dr. Tom Ellis, chairman of the Southern Baptist Convention's Council on the Family said that for "...born-again Christian couples who marry...in the church after having received premarital counseling...and attend church regularly and pray daily together..." experience only 1 divorce out of nearly 39,000 marriages -- or 0.00256 percent. 9
A recent study by the Barna Research Group throws extreme doubt on these estimates. Barna released the results of their poll about divorce on 1999-DEC-21. 1 They had interviewed 3,854 adults from the 48 contiguous states. The margin of error is within 2 percentage points. The survey found:
11% of the adult population is currently divorced.
25% of adults have had at least one divorce during their lifetime.
Divorce rates among conservative Christians were significently higher than for other faith groups, and for Atheists and Agnostics."
I grew up with 5 brothers and my brothers used to chase the women like there was no tomorrow. I did not have any more sex than they did, yet I have seen you make the statement that gays are more permiscuous than hetrosexuals. Have you been to a straight bar lately? Probably not, but I can tell you people are hooking up like crazy. I believe the real problem is alcohol, and drugs. I have known many gay men who have been into drugs, and I do think it happens to gay men frequently because they feel the need to be loved and they don't know how to do it in a positive way. How could you know how to love in a positive way if you are kicked out of your house, or teased at school since you were 7 for being different, (that is not a choice, no one wants to be humiliated when they are 7 years old) or you were beaten up in high school. Of course you are going to be depressed. These people would not be depressed if they were not treated so horribly by society just for being different/gay.
I hope in my lifetime being gay will be no big deal. I want no one to care. I don't want to get married! This would save a lot of youths from going down a slippery slope, and I don't think supressing their homosexuality is the answer. Who wants to live a lie!