I get kind of frustrated with folks who view Christian martyrdom as a future event. Yahoo - children martyred in sudan - for example (If you use the "cached" function your search words will be highlighted):
http://search.yahoo.com/search?p=childr ... =&ei=UTF-8
http://www.al-bushra.org/vatican/sundan.htm
But Muslims are more into putting kids into slavery
http://www.thunderstruck.org/archivevault/Persecut.HTM
Then there's the evangelist that went into the Palestinian territory and disappeared for a couple of weeks and was sent home in a box in 4 parts.
http://www.mcjonline.com/news/03a/20030815e.shtml
Yahoo - muslim convert to christianity -
http://search.yahoo.com/search?p=muslim ... eb-t&x=wrt
You will quickly learn that ever so "civilized" Saudi Arabia is the beheading capital of the world. All a national needs to do is simply let somebody know that he is a CHristian.
http://search.yahoo.com/search?p=behead ... eb-t&x=wrt
In the Sudan some are crucified on crosses and the "lucky ones" get their hands or feet cut off.
How's your neighborhood holding up?
http://www.wzzm13.com/printfullstory.aspx?storyid=28949
Tens of millions of Evangelicals are looking for a FUTURE period of tribulation and persecution. Isn't it reasonable to presume that the fantasy of a "pre-tribulation rapture" might be somewhat lost on the over million dead Christian martyrs lost in the Sudan alone? Fantasy thoughts toward a pre-trib rapture also separate those believers, rather than joining them in solidarity with their brothers and sisters in Christ Jesus that are falling to the knife.
If you are ready to walk out of the valley of futurism and dispensational eschatology, and the 7-year tribulation fantasy (see thread), click on the next link and read the papers and also the free books - and it doesn't even require a login.
http://www.ellisskolfield.com/downloadable-books.shtml
If you are ready to belly up to the bar and help your falling brothers and sisters in Christ Jesus try Voice of the Martyrs who also have news regarding Christian persecution which is also acute in China.
(No login required just click on topic at left)
http://www.persecution.com/
In answer to your specific question, God has a plan for you and your kids. Relax and put your trust in Him, don't be a slacker, be vigilant in all things (including perhaps even reviewing your doctrine or whether you indeed need one) and you and yours will be OK.