Linda you claim that you believe: "every human being is equal. And of course we're supposed to treat them with respect."
Yet you are against gays having equality, and you insist that God considers them all sinners.
Um... maybe... that's why people think you're a bigot?
Well, technically your viewpoint is hypocritical.
And no, this is not a personal attack. I am merely stating the painfully obvious fact that if you are against a certain group of people having equal rights (especially the thousands of protections and obligations that come with and only with marriage), then that is pretty much the very definition of the word "bigot".
I seriously don't understand why this concept is difficult for you.
-E