Christian/Muslim ThreadsDo Christian men have a strong sense of Brotherhood?Peace2God'sPeople said: Aburaees said: Peace Aburaees, I don't need to be able to beat my wife to feel like a man, I need to have that authority and right to be able to run an undivided household. Let me give you a very practical example: My wife and I spent years arguing and debating how money should be spent in the home. This is a very common problem in America. Even after going to counseling and getting many problems worked out my wife still got it into her head that she wanted our family to take a very expensive vacation the next summer. Day after day, my wife, daughter, and in-laws would build up the fun that we would have on this vacation. For almost a year, I had to struggle with her, asking her to please stop pushing this, that I wasn't sure that we could afford it, and that we just needed to wait and see how the money was doing. Aburaees, everytime my wife got my daughter going about this vacation, I would get very uneasy and a little upset (no, not violent) because I did not thing it was fair to my daughter for everyone to build this trip up when it would just crush her when summer time rolled around if we could not afford to go. I knew this was irresponsible of my wife. Everytime I asked her prayerfully and softly to please stop doing what she was doing, she would blow it up into a big argument about how I didn't want to go at all and how I didn't care about her and my daughter's dreams. This is why the American family is in the bankrupt state that it is in. If I had looked at my wife and told her point blank that I wanted this nonsense to stop and that I wanted no more talk of it until it was closer to being time to go, she would have just looked right back to me and asked me who I was to tell her what she could and couldn't say-that I wasn't her father and that I couldn't control her. This is the kind of childish behavior that many American men have to put up with. This is the very reason that American families are debt-ridden. So many Christians, so much debt. You see, if we challenge our wives in a Christian way, then what we get from our wives instead of respect is derisive comments. While we are trying to lead our families into responsible behavior, our wives are calling us "nags" and rebelling against us. A good honorable Muslim man could look at his wife and, hoping that he never had to use force, tell her that her rebelliousness needed to stop. Knowing that he could use force if he had to, the Muslim wife knows that it is her place to stop going on and on the way she has been. A good honorable Christian man can only pray, nag, and/or submit to his wife's decision to hijack major financial decisions for the family. You tell me which of the two is more ideal? A Christian will step up and point out that the best thing to happen is for a man who understands his leadership role, will already have worked out a budget after discussing the family's mission and goals thoroughly with his wife. It is argued that, together, they can hold to the budget by engaging in a beautiful interactive partnership. Great ideal, but it is quite impractical. As I have said before, few Christian women are willing to submit themselves to their marriage long enough to ever get to this point. As I have argued before, most Christians let their children date and, subsequently, most Christian marriages have an impure foundation to begin with. Since most marriages are "marriages of adultery" it is not surprising that they do not make it long under duress. No foundation of purity and no basis for authority leaves the Christian family weak indeed. Peace2God'sPeople |
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