When I see people who proffess to be gay or lesbian it seems like they are that way to either
1. Get attention- make a statement about how they have been mistreated about their own sexuality
2. Because people tell them they are that way and they just want to go with the flow
3. Because they are lonely and feel like a person of the same sex will be less likely to leave them or hurt them
4. Because it is convinient- bill paying and fulfilling sexual desires at the same time
5. Because no one can judge a gay person on their actions towards their partner- they just get profiled as "gay"
6. Because they like what they saw in the personalities of other gay people and want that liberty for themself
7. Because they are bored
I think most gay people are just scared of the male-female relatonship. They have low self-esteem for some reason but they want a relationship with another person that will not hurt their self-esteem even more if they are rejected.