Thank your for your responce
But the fact of the matter is my mother didnt have an abortion because she couldnt get one since she was so strung out she was nearly 5 months along with me before she would belive she was really pregnant.
Life is so complicated and I wish there was a black and white answer to things but I cant find one.
Women who abuse thier children dont have abortions because of the same reason they didnt use birth control.
They refuse to take responcibilty for thier own actions and choose to ignore the problem instead.
Only after awhile they find a child isnt something you can ignore and it go away.
I wish I could say adoption was the answer but its not.
There are lots of couples out there looking for babies...no not a child to have raise and love but a BABY and a normal one at that.
Personaly I wish they would pass a law stateing unless it was family adopting family that all adoption had to go through the state that way all kids would get a shot and not just perfect little newborn (mostly white) infants.
Hearing storeies of abused children is hard?
Damn right its hard and it makes me extreamly angry and all anyone ever does is say oh thats sad then change the channel so they can forget about it and focus on something else.
Yes abortion kills a child (course I only believe it kills a child after the 4th month of pregnacny but thats a personal belife)
But so does abuse and which is more importtant?
I think the children already here deserve the rallys and the attention from the media and from whatever religious orginization people belong to.
I belive almost all of it goes to the abortion issue though which greatly upsets me.
But this is because I see the children already here as being in more need of help than those who could potentily be here.
I think most people understand abortion terminates life.
However a great deal of people dont belive life has a right untill its viable (means it can live outside its mothers body)
Many christian churches have taken that stance as well..dosnt mean they are right but no one really knows when a childs spirit enters a body nor is that an issue here in the U.S were church and state must remain seperated to protect all this countrys people.
Education IS they key to prevention in both abortion and abuse.
But few are willing there are even parents out there right now who want to take sex ed and drug/pregnancy awareness out of our childrens class rooms .
What on earth is on these peoples minds I can not tell you but they sure arnt thinking of the overall good of the community but t\rather thinking on a me and my own syndrom.
Chasity..in a perfect world its the perfect answer.
I dont know about you but I have never lived anyware near that world.
And I dont mean that in the way of oh just let kids do whatever..I mean kids are having sex earlier and earlier.
When I had my youngest I was shocked to be put ina room with a girl who gave birth to a 13 pound little boy.
both the infants size shocked me as well as looking over and seeing the mother was nothing and I mean nothing but a child ..she was 11 years old and there I sat at age 23 having had my third live child just in shock at a kid throwing her life away so young.
Untill that moment I had honestly thought the only ones that young were victims of incest or rape but no..in her case it was a kid consenting to sex with another kid.
And that is what we are facing Promoting abstance is a wonderfull thing something we should all do.
But its not an issue to be forced because kids tend to run off and do the first thing they arnt supposed to.
So my oldest girl is 7 years old she knows were babies come from, she knows how they get there, she knows all her parts and all a little boys parts.
She is educated to the best of what one can do with a child her age on sex and its effects and repercussions.
Will this stop her from becomming a teen mom?
I certainly hope so but kids dont come with a how to manual one has to wing it.
But if the day comes and she desides abstance isnt for her then yes I will take her down to the cllinc for condoms and birth control.
And that I think is a large problem some parents push to hard for either religious reasons or social reasons to keep sex in the closet per say.
So when thier kids start becomeing sexually active they get upset and punish them while refuseing to help them prevent pregnacny.
A parents and a childs only defence against pregnancy and abortion is one to pay attention!
Two..lovethem no matter what they arnt you and they may not hold your same values.
Three for thier futures sake if they start having sex put away your belifes and feelings long enough to help them and I mean truly HELP them not lecture them take them get them the education they need and get them the protection they need.
Ask them questions were are you going?
Who are your friends?
What is the number?
How do I reach you?
How long will you be gone?
These help prevent so many problems from drug abuse to sex.
Once we stop unwanted pregnancies we stop abortion.
What woud I like to see on the abortion issue?
strict control they are to easy to get!
I cant say i'm aganst abortions within the first trimester except in those cases where some owmen have multiple ones and use it as a form of birth control..thats terrible.
These so called partial birth abortions in my eyes are nothing short of murder.
second trimester abortions...this is the sticky area I belive only if the mothers life is in danger and OR the child will be severly handicaped or will not live.
This is sticky because what determines if the mothers life is in danger?
Well I dont know but I can tell you its often used as an excuse instead of a fact so its a hard one to control.
But i would like to see a ban on any ELECTIVE abortion past the first trimester.