Peace farside,
We will begin with the issue of the hooriyen. It is proven by Sahih Sunnah that a martyr will get 72, the least of men will get 2 and for some more than that. This is well accepted by the scholars of the past and those of the future. The great sheikh Al-Albani recorded it as being authentic. If you would like more on this, you can visit this link:
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In the hadith, if a woman sees her husband with another woman it is something that is hateful to her.
This "hatefulness" will not be something that will take place in heaven. The hadith is only for the life of this world. Is that difficult to understand?
Peace and Blessings be to the Believers