Shrink,
I have known some people who - although they are gorgeous physically - have terrible personalities. They're mean-spirited, vain, self-centered, cruel, and thoughtless. They care nothing for the people around them, they believe that the world should revolve around them, and they are delighted when they've succeeded in destroying a person's self-esteem.
Then you have the people who are not blessed with a perfect figure, double D sized boobs, or bulging muscles. They are constantly subjected to verbal and physical abuse from the beautiful ones. While some members of Group #2 become hard and bitter, others are somehow able to rise above the horrors they've suffered. They're able to feel tremendous compassion for those around them.
Yes, I was and still am slightly overweight. And yes, I did have to put up with boys who wouldn't give me the time of day. But in the end, I was thankful that they wouldn't go out with me, because they turned out to be drug addicts (Several, in fact), alcoholics (One of whom recently died in a D.D. accident), robbers (They run rampant.), killers (One's going to be convicted of vehicular manslaughter soon), and unwed fathers (Way too many.) Now, I'm in love with a wonderful young man. I also have managed to get back the self-confidence that I'd lost in high school. Most of the time, I don't care what people say about me. I chalk it up to ignorance and the fact that they, themselves, are severely lacking in self-confidence. If my health weren't an issue, I'd be 100% with the way I look. Believe it or not, Shrink, there are people who do not base a relationship upon how a person looks. Those of us who think with our hearts and heads, other than our (cough) anatomy actually care about a potential spouse's personality. On my list of requirements for a potential husband, physical appearance is #11.
1 - Is the guy emotionally/mentally/physically stable?
2 - Is he going to treat me with respect?
3 - Does he have a history of substance abuse?
4 - Has he been known to be violent?
5 - What are his beliefs? Will they clash with mine to the point where we are no longer able to maintain a relationship?
6 - What are his views on marriage?
7 - Does he want children?
8 - Will he always be honest with me?
9 - How will he treat my family?
10 - If he has an affair, will he admit it? And will he do it again?
11 - Is he physically attractive?
And yes, I do have a problem with men. But not all men. I only have a problem with men like you and your little friend, BQO. Men who are mean and ignorant. Men who get off on making other people feel insignificant. But I have a large amount of respect for men like Aineo, who don't feel sorry for themselves and don't take joy in other people's suffering. Perhaps instead of trying to tear Aineo down, you could try to be more like him. You have a lot to learn from him.
And go ahead and psychoanalyze me all you want. Go on and tell me that I have a problem with all men, and that I've been hurt by family members, which led me to become a "lesbian." But you're going to be wrong on all three acounts. I don't have a problem with all men. I have not been hurt or betrayed by family members, and I'm not a lesbian. In case you haven't noticed, I've stated a total of three times that I'm in love with a MAN. So unless they've changed the definition of "lesbian," I'm not one.
I'd imagine you're feeling pretty foolish by now, and I hope you go back to whatever college you attended, so you can return your psychiatry degree. Because let's face it. You're pretty terrible when it comes down to psychoanalyzing people.
Hey, Crystal! Aineo! Webmaster! Want to see if we can psychoanalyze Shrink? We may not have fancy-schmancy psychiatry degrees, but let's give it a try, eh?
Here is my theory: Shrink is a homosexual who is angry at Aineo, who is a prime example of how homosexuals can change, if they want it badly enough. To admit that Aineo has, in fact, turned away from his lifestyle and formed a friendship with the Lord fills Shrink with absolute terror. So, employing the defense mechanism he's been using since he was enjoying the "delicacy" known as paste, Shrink lashes out at those who point out that A) homosexuality is a sin, and B) people are capable of change.
So, Shrink, how's it feel to get a taste of your own medicine?
You are the kind of person who, instead of posting an intelligent reply, chose to follow the path of the members of Group #1. The cruel, malicious people. The kind of people who, in order to make what I laughingly refer to as their point, make false accusations and insult those who oppose you. And you're so surprised that you've received a serious verbal backlash? There's are two words for you, Shrink, and BigQueerOrganist.
Perhaps you should look up the meaning of those words.
No. Wait. I have them right here.
BULLY - a person who hurts, frightens or tyrannizes others.
FOOL - a person with little or no judgment, common sense, wisdom, etc.
Here is one of the Biblical definitions, taken from the Wycliffe Biblical Encyclopedia, published in 1975.
The "fool" is not one who does not think or reason, but who reasons selfishly and wrongly. In the OT the fool is the person who rejects the fear of the Lord, and thinks and acts independently as if he could ignore God's rule and blaspheme His name and mock at sin, all with impunity (Ps 14:1; 74:18; 22; Prov 14:8 - 9; etc.).
Finally, we have...
HYPOCRITE - a person who pretends to be what he is not; one who pretends to be better than he really is, or to be pious, virtuous, etc. without really being so.
Finally, I'm sure you're going to make another oh-so-witty joke, but I'm going to quote Will Smith. Perhaps you've seen "Men in Black"? If you have, remember this line?
Don't start nothin', won't be nothin'.
In other words, if you treat people like crap, don't be surprised when
you are treated the same way. And if you attack me, I'll fight back. I'm not going to cower in a corner like a little bunny rabbit. I respect myself too much, and I'm not going to let anyone - especially you, a stranger - push me around. And don't think that, for one second, you can insult my friends without having to deal with me.
Just remember this, Shrink. God judges people by their actions, and he looks at what's in their hearts. I have a feeling that when Judgment Day arrives, you and BQO will have a lot to answer for. You will be greatly disappointed when you learn that God does not appreciate the way you two have been treating me and the other people who've disagreed with you. You will find that God does not like the fact that you have done more harm than good. Do you really think God condones your behavior? Do you believe He enjoys witnessing you and BQO tearing down those who disagree wtih you?
God may love you and BQO, because you're His children. But I'd imagine He is very disappointed in you. I may not have a degree from an over-priced, fancy college like Harvard or wherever you went. But even I know that God loathes what you two have been doing. You and BQO may have degrees, but when it comes right down to the things that count, you two are mind-numbingly stupid. You have no concept of love and understanding, and you both should be ashamed of yourselves.
I think I'm through talking to you, and I'd imagine the Webmaster is going to eliminate your account very soon. Because if you're anything like BQO, I will not be surprised if you throw out a few "ambiguous" threats and even more insults.
BTW, say "hi" to BQO and tell him that we're all praying for everyone in your church, hoping that they realize just how blind they are to the truth.
Speaking of, why is it that the only members in your church are those with hefty bank accounts and degrees? Where are the regular people? You know, the housewives? The truck drivers? The waitresses and waiters? Or do you place more value upon money and prestige?