Let’s try to put it all in perspective.
4: And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
5: And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
Here Jesus establishes the obligation for a man to marry and be faithful to one wife. Hopefully we are all in agreement on this.
9: And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
This reaffirms the requirement of monogamy.
10: His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.
The disciples find this rule a little hard to swallow.
11: But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.
Jesus gives them an option. In this option he says that there are those that cannot accept this rule (to marry a woman and be monogamous). It is important to note here that he does not say “will not”, “would rather not”, “didn’t want to”, but he said “cannot”. This would imply that he was referring to people incapable (mentally, physically, or both) from living by the rules of men. This is a very important distinction.
12: For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb:
The important thing to remember at this point is that Jesus is only allowing two possible states for a grown man. He is either married, or he is a Eunuch. More importantly, he can only be a Eunuch if he is incapable of being married to a woman. “so born from their mother's womb” has to refer to anyone who from the day he was born would never be able to consummate a relationship, for whatever reason. A truly gay man is incapable of consistently performing his male duties with a woman any more than the average heterosexual man could have sex with another man---the equipment only works when the brain is in synch---not when the individual is disgusted with the act. Therefore, by default, a gay man falls into this category. Here is an interesting question to ponder---if Jesus only allowed two states for man---married or a eunuch---what was Jesus?
and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men:
This category I think everyone agrees upon. These are males that were physically castrated by other men, and are obviously incapable of consummating a relationship with a woman.
and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake.
The church tries to sell this as celibacy. However, Jesus rule was explicit---if you are physically and mentally capable of consummating a relationship with a woman, you were required to do so. The only way a heterosexual man could achieve this category would be to actually have him self castrated. This is consistent with Jewish Law which required a man to be married by the age of eighteen.
He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
Once again, this is a confirmation that anyone who was able to receive the rules concerning marriage and monogamy should do so.(all except the eunuchs who were not able to).
This is a literal translation that makes sense in every way and even satisfies Jewish Law. It also satisfies the laws about “not lying” in that it is not asking homosexuals to pretend to be what they aren’t (to live a lie). It takes away the need to hate. It confirms that gay men are born this way (Jesus just told us this). It also addresses all references in the bible to homosexuality--- eunuchs were not considered men, so rules applying to two men would not apply to eunuchs. The Aramaic translation (the language of Jesus) of eunuch is: ---Castrated Male, faithful believer. Faithful believers they were indeed, because in relinquishing their manhood they moved from the top to the bottom of the social hierarchy. There was no great lineup to become a eunuch. Think about it----the real sin was not to come out of the closet---the real sin was to stay in the closet and live a lie.