Christian Chat???Questions that someone maybe able to answer??? :: Re: ???Questions that someone maybe able to answer???The price has already been paid. All atonement was taken care of by Christ our Lord. Whether or not a person is saved -- and all of us sin, so there is no such thing this side of heaven as 'not sinning' -- makes no difference. Christ paid for all sin for all time -- once for all. But forgiveness is another matter. That takes two -- the offender and the offended. As much as you have been offended, you must be ready to forgive all. Here is a picture I have used with Sunday School kids. I take a glass of vinegar, which is as clear as water, and ask them if any of them would like to take a sip. They sniff and refuse! So I pour half of it out and fill the other half with 7-Up. Oh, this is better, right? NO! That's even worse! OK. I pour out almost all and then fill with 7-Up. Want to taste? Ohhhh, that's awful! So then I pour out everything and rinse out the cup and put in pure 7-Up. That is the only way it tastes good. Our hearts are like that. If we only forgive a few, or part-way, we have retained vinegar in our hearts, and the sweetness of God's forgiveness for us will only taste bitter when combined in our hearts with our own vinegar. Everyone has to be forgiven, for we have been sinned against ever so much less than we have sinned against God. So empty out the cup and ask God to rinse it and get rid of all anger and bitterness and strife and simply let God fill you up His way. That means you must be born again, spiritually, for He will not put His Holy Spirit in a stinking, rotting heart. You need a new heart from Him, and it is yours for the asking -- as long as you are ready to junk your old heart and let Him kill it. You need to realize you are rot and truly want a change -- that is true repentance, not just being sorry that you are a sinner, but truly wanting to change. As far as masturbating goes, it will not send you to hell. But it may send your marriage in that direction later. Why? Because you will have learned to please yourself better than your spouse will know how to please you, and you will have gotten used to fantasies which she/he will NEVER be able to compete with. What I told my sons when they were growing up, knowing that male hormones can be overwhelming in the young adult years, was to keep it to an absolute minimum and preferably in the shower so sheets didn't have to be laundered more often than necessary (we had six kids and fosters). Simple, common sense advice. God knows the hormone problem. But we also learned that keeping active with other areas of one's life really reduces the problem. Get off the computer and get thee to a gym! Or gardening. Or running. Or doing just about anything that demands physical activity and concentration. It really helps. |
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