Hi. I'm not a homosexual, but I have a question for those who are Christian and are practicing homosexuals. I have a brother-in-law who is gay and he is practicing, but he doesn't like to talk about it so I'm trying to find someone who can answer some questions for me or at least point me in the right direction so I can find answers. Please do not be offended by these questions. They are genuine and I am interested in knowing how the Christian gay community would answer.
The Bible speaks very clearly on the rules governing heterosexual relationships, but is seemingly silent on the gay sexual relationship. So how do you know what is right and wrong in the area of sex?
For instance, when is it OK to have sex with a person? As a heterosexual, marriage is necessary before a couple can engage in sex. Of course, that is not to say that not everyone obeys God's Word. Also, divorce should be a last resort and is permissable only if there is marital unfaithfulness, abuse, or something of the sort. God hates divorce. Are these things also true of gay sexual relationships?
Is "marriage" a prerequisite for gay sex?
Does a person have to be in a committed relationship first? If so, what does that mean and who determines this?
Do you have to have a public commitment ceremony first similar to the heterosexual marriage ceremony?
Is divorce permissable? Under what grounds?
Are there guidelines on this issue for gay Christians anywhere? Can someone show me where I can learn about this?
How do you make decisions about when God permits sex in a gay relationship and when He would view it as sin?
How did you arrive at the ethics that guide your relationship? Or put another way, did your views on this come from yourself, from talking to other gays, or from your church?
Any idea what percentage of Christian gays actually try and follow some sort of moral code in their sexual life?
Any help will be appreciated. Thanks.
tj