ArchivedThe Psychology of Sexual PrejudiceAnd what is that "one true understanding" ? Because I will bet you your bottom dollar (unless you're a top, that is) that I can find a Christian organization that will refute it. According to which denomination? Any denomination or is this your own personal view of the situation, because I can find you instances of Christian groups that do not believe this, which goes on to debunk your "one understanding of scripture" theory completely. Love has become just a word to many people, Aineo. It is less than meaningless to most because they do not understand that it is an action. Loving somebody is to accept them for what they are, who they are and what they have done, regardless of your own feelings, beliefs, wishes or creeds. then why do you call your so called "Clobber verses" the "Clobber verses"? You hit these poor confused souls over the head with your poor and confused interpretations of very, very small portions of scripture. There are Christians groups who believe that the Bible does not take a stance on homosexuality one way or the other (your "one understanding of scripture" takes another sucker punch), but I guess you believe those Christians are "lost" because, extreme like Hitler, you believe that your version of Christianity is the only one with the "right" answers. Which is exactly the problem with a lot of Christianity. It is unable to comprehend the fact that there ARE no "right answers" or "ultimate truths". death and taxes, aineo. bank on them. they are all you have. everything else is negotiable. It has to do with a little thing called taking responsibility for your own life. I hope you also refer them to seek advice from homosexuals as well because it is only right and proper that they hear both sides of the story, don't you think? You don't seem to understand that the large majority of homosexuals have a very difficult time coming to terms with themselves initially. Growing pains are the norm and confusion most definitely reigns. Perhaps they would do better discussing their problems with an out and proud gay who is living a happy and productive life. After all, chances are that out and proud gay has been in exactly the same situation and found a positive way through it. If you think you can assist these people by feeding them the great lie that, yes, they *can* change "back" into "normal" people then you are doing them a great disservice in the long run because you are helping them to deny their individuality and helping them kill a vital part of themselves until expressing who they really are becomes something that is, to them (and to you) painful, wrong and disgusting and that shame, that battle is something they have to face every day of the rest of their life. Do you really think God would prize the way a person has sex over a persons long-term happiness? "Who cares if he's miserable as sin and feeling suicidal, as long as he's doing it with a woman!" Is that really what your God is like? Because basically that is what you are doing every time you give "guidance" to confused homosexuals. Obviously you can't understand that because otherwise you wouldn't be doing it. I have read independent research by independent psychiatrists, psychologists, doctors and other professionals and academics about this idea of "changing" someone's sexual orientation and 90% of what I have read has said that the idea is not only a complete fallacy but that it does more harm than good. The only documentary evidence I have found that actually reckons sexual orientation CAN be successfully changed has been either written by or conducted by Church related organizations. Not terribly "independent" or "unbiased" wouldn't you say? All you seem to be doing, based on the available evidence (of which there is plenty) is assisting someone in turning away from who they are and leading them into a life that is likely to wind up entirely sexless or result in unhappy relationships and marriages down the road. then there is the truck load of guilt that is tipped into the bargain, because everytime they do see a same sex hottie do you really think certain thoughts are NOT going to go through their mind? And when they do, how are they going to feel? Guilty, ashamed and weak. And this is something that they will have to contend with day in and day out for the rest of their lives. Do those thoughts sometimes go through YOUR mind before you even realize you are thinking them? If not, then you were never a gay man. You might like to read the opening chapters where Joe bluntly tells those who are seeking change only for societal, religious, and family acceptance to forget change and simply accept themselves and their feelings and forget even trying to change since they are doomed to miserable failure. I give seekers the same answer Joe does; count the cost and the cost is great before you set your feet on this path. It is neither quick nor easy. Forget Joe, I'm sure he tells a really good story but I have no time for such nonsense, I prefer to go with independent experts. Send your confused kiddies to the aforementioned out and proud homosexual. He or She will show them the way to self-acceptance and happiness. That is if you *really* do love them. Judging from the overwhelming evidence I have read from independent experts decrying the Ex Gay movement as harmful and fraudulent, as well as your above remark, apparently my comments were in reality uncomfortably close to home. |
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