<i>"Site the court opinion in California that makes their DOMA unconstitutional. "</i>
To my knowlege, California courts have not made any such rulings. I believe you're thinking of massachusettes. San Francisco mayor has been marrying as an act of civil disobedience, but that is not the same thing at all.
<i>"The State of NY has arraigned a local official yesterday for performing gay unions without a license and in upholding State Law in the process."</i>
He broke the law, and now he faces consequences.