Aineo,
I may never change your mind -- or anyone's, I suspect; at least not through debate -- but I think I've gotten one answer to my initial question:
"Is your legal right to marry worth 300,000 lives?"
I don't see it that way... not even close. But I can understand your reasoning now. I may not be able to resist coming back to argue the point, for argument's sake, because I do see it differently... but it's an answer.
Thank you.