Aineo,
I'm pretty sure I've pointed out that I want civil marriage rights, not any sort of recognition from any religious organization. Marriage is by no means an exclusively Christian concept... so why would my civil right to marriage be a compromise to your faith? There's no requirement for religious groups to recognize legal marriages as "true" marriages, correct? That's why I got to attend my own parents' wedding, when they converted to Orthodoxy.
As I think I mentioned earlier, I've debated Christians on the issue of divorce, and specifically divorce-and-remarriage, more than once. Most of them wouldn't even concede it was a sin, and I've never heard anyone suggest that it should be illegal.
I'm all in favor of giving children the truth, and as much of it as is reasonable for their age. I can't say as I'm particularly impressed by Irving Bieber's studies, based on this synopsis. Long-term "success rate" -- counting exclusively homosexual people who became exclusively homosexual, and stayed that way -- is 10%, not 50. And no questions asked about fantasies or desires, just behavior. I'd really like to see some better studies done... and frankly, if they showed that a true change in orientation was possible for most people, I'd be happy. It's just not the result I'm expecting.
But I fully support your right to be "ex-gay," to refrain from homosexual relationships, to tell the world that there's another path and that you've taken it. I will not try to "save you from yourself," even if I think you're making a mistake. Will you give me that same freedom? Will you let me live my life as I choose... or does even the possibility of homosexual marriage somehow threaten those homosexual people who "want to change"? It sounds like you want to restrict their freedom for their own good... but regardless of your good intentions, you still want to restrict their freedom. And mine, and everyone else's who doesn't want to change.
It is a two-way street, and that's my point. You've gone your way, and I'd like to go mine. And while you may want to save me the misery you think I'll find... that's not your call to make.
No, I don't believe the Supreme Court should be making rulings based on a "right to privacy" that doesn't exist -- particularly since I've been swayed by David Brin's advocacy of "transparency," and I don't think such a right should exist. Whose morals? Mine, of course. But I'm not a judge, and I doubt I'd make a good one. But I do think homosexuality is a civil liberties issue -- and that should override the coexisting morality issue. There's a rather large difference between restricting where one can sell adult entertainment or alcohol, and restricting the right to marriage. Interracial marriage was seen as a "moral issue" by those who opposed it, I'm sure, regardless of what the Bible does or doesn't say.