Ok, I will get those references soon, but I have to ask...
What background were you raised in and forgive me if this is too personal, but have you or someone you love been a victim of sexual abuse?
I'm asking because based on your thoughts and statements it hints that there may be some kind of aversion to sex itself. Please, I don't mean this in a bad way or as a "slam", I'm serious.
It's just a message board, you're free to choose not to answer.
Chrys