Being Divorced myself let me put in some insight into it from a person who wanted a divorce view point.
I make no bones about this I admit I used my first husband from the get go to get away from an abusive home life with my parents.
I hated my husband when I met him but he was per say a ticket out of hell so you take what you can get I guess.
I married at the age of 16
I turned 18 I filed for divorce.
I felt sorry for him yes because he did love me in his odd way but he was obsessive and jelious and extreamly childish.
Yes it hurt him to get divorced and yes at the time I was still a christian.
but no I pressed for divorce because my feelings hadnt changed I STILL couldnt stand him.
It was during our divorce that I was lead to following the Wiccan religian
Predictably he attempted to use that in court agasint me.
I wasnt able to get a divorce at the age of 18 because I was pregnante and it wasnt legal but it was finalized 3 weeks after my little girl was born.
I walked away from him with her and never looked back really.
I paid rent in a house for him for 4 months to help him get out on his own.
While we had been married he didnt work so he had no money saved up.
I also gave him half of the cash in the bank account.
Of course I did shut down his credit cards and such so I would not be held accountable for them any longer ect.
I think I may have done him a terrible evil in useing him.
But I never turned my back on him and allowed him to flounder either.
Some people shouldnt be together.
Whatever thier reason for beign together int eh first place they shouldnt be forced to stay together.
I have had a partner now for nearing 6 years and we are perfectly happy and only had so much as 1 aurgument marriage isnt an issue though.
We dont need a piece of paper to be commited.