Alas AOL is the gift of frustration upon earth!
I use Verizon myself DSL and rethinking that I dont know if I want to support a company that dosnt support family workers.
If your email is ticky on some things try geting a web based email
these are handy since you can acess them from anyware.
Yahoo mail is free and has virus scanners to scan all email comming in or out plus you get to pick whats spam
If you want to try it its not all that bad.