obviously that is a very unhealthy reaction to terminal illness. your gay psych probably found you so offensive that he told you whatever he needed to to get you the hell out of his breathing space. i know i would! i had a friend - a straight male (yes, i do have them!) who had suicidal thoughts and his doctor put him in a psych's care. he, like you, felt he didn't need treatment and told me he told the psych what the psych wanted to hear just so he could be discharged. it worked. he hanged himself a year later.
The company I worked for changed medical insurance the following year and my new infectious disease doctor gave me Prozac for my inherited tremor, which my primary care physician objected to and sent me to a psychiatrist. Now this alone should tell you that not all doctors do what it proper since a neurologist is who finally diagnosed my tremor. But, again a mental health professional this time one that diagnosis and treats diseases of the brain told me the same thing the psychologist did; so those mental health professionals you keep referring to have told me I do not suffer from self-hate.
but they're all wrong, remember? you don't believe anything they say. you seem to been to a lot of medicos for someone who is supposed to have no psychological problems. where there is smoke, there's fire, i say!
So why do you Aussies keep throwing that phrase at me? Because it is your only defense against an ex-gay man who has found real peace and joy in his life.
Mate, if you had real "peace and joy" in your life you would not spend it bothering little boys.
I also know gay couples who have been together for from 5+ years who are happy and well adjusted individuals.
No darl, i would say you know OF gay couples..... because gay couples such as that would have absolutely nothing to do with you.
So what is your point? I know many heterosexual couples that have been married from 1 to 50 years who can't stand each other but remain married for their own reasons. Happiness is a state of mind. What is your answer to gays who are not happy being gay and who seek professional help and still remain unhappy?
my answer would be the same i would give to a heterosexual who is unhappy. in a mature adult, not an adolescent who is still developing their persona and still coming to terms with their sexuality, i would wager their sexuality is NOT the cause of their unhappiness. maybe they need a new direction, something to give their lives a renewed sense of meaning, a renewed sense of purpose.
Oh, I know you blame religious people who say homosexuality is a sin. We are the scapegoat for unhappy gays, unhappy heterosexuals living together without the benefit of marriage and every other group that is unhappy.
feel sorry for yourself much?
How about those people taking responsibility for your own life and quit blaming others for their circumstances, has that every entered your mind? Of course not since it is easier to blame someone else.
now you are trying to tell me that gay people deserve to get bashed and they should blame themselves for it. great. you are a real prince, aineo. a real gem of a human being. we are all responsible for our own happiness, sure, but we are also responsible for accepting those things we cannot change and facing up to the things that might scare us. turning what might initially be perceived as weakness in ourselves into a strength is what gay people do with such style and aplomb and despite all that the gay community faces daily, its rare that they ever, ever feel sorry for themselves. an HIV clinic/hospital ward is one of the most positive, loving places you could ever set foot in.
Personal breakthroughs can come at any age; mine came between 40 and 50 so again what is your point?
that's when you "changed" yourself? classic mid-life crisis material. you were either deluding yourself that you were gay or you are deluding yourself that you are straight, one or the other. given that you say you have AIDS, i would tend to think that you were so deeply traumatised by the diagnosis that you effectively shut out everything you associate with being gay once and for all which basically means you are living in a constant state of denial. basically you are doing what you do because you are desperately trying to be forgiven by God for ever having been homosexual. you must have always felt guilty for it at some level or another and so your spiritual growth and emotional development was stunted. you never found a gay role model to show you how you could overcome that guilt and live a fulfilling gay life. how sad for you.
Ah, there you go again assuming you know me because you won’t accept that a person can change their sexual orientation. Personal attacks are the usual last resort of those who are loosing a debate. BTW, show me where I have attacked a gay man for being gay or a lesbian for being a lesbian. You can’t. I have defended a position concerning a behavior without attacking an individual.
Funny that you seem to think a good lay would help me accept myself. If I had a dollar for every time a straight told me that all I needed was to be laid by a good woman to cure me of being homosexual I could take trip around the world. Have you taken into consideration that your emphasis on sex is one reason some straights don’t take the time to try to understand the gay community? But then why should I expect you to think you are out to play gay games on a Christian message board.
Aren't you bloody marvellous, then! Don't talk to me about surviving personal attacks. You don't know the first thing about them.
There is no debate because you don't have a leg to stand on in anyone's book except that adhered to by a very small portion of Christians.
So you have read the Bible. Then be so kind as to explain these verses:
Leviticus 18:22
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