ArchivedI need advice badly.....feeling lonely and desperate :: i_need_help and faithmani_need_help and faithman Gently and lovingly approach your wife with your Bible and have her read aloud the Scriptures that condemn homosexual practices and adultery. You may also want to have her read aloud the Scriptures that speak of the sanctity of marriage and family. Your wife is a lost sheep, who needs to be pursued by you with love and gentleness. "Tell it to the church" is not suggesting that you stand up in front of the entire congregation and say, "Well, my wife's at it again. She's sleeping around with women." It means that you should approach the pastor and church elders (Remember: out of love and gentleness), tell them your problem, and then let them deal with it. This, I believe, will be the hardest thing for you to do. If she still refuses to listen to you, you have to make a difficult decision. You may have to resort to either evicting her from your home, or moving out yourself. (You may want to let your kids know about your plan before you carry it out. Let them know that you love their mother very much, and explain to them why you are going to do what you're planning on doing.) Let her know that even though you love her, you cannot live with her, knowing that she is willingly putting you and your family through emotional distress and exposing you to a sinful lifestyle. What you do and who you are associated with is reflected upon the Church (because we are one) and Jesus Christ Himself. You must send your wife a clear message that you are not going to be associated with her, because her sins shame her, you, your family, the Church and -- most importantly -- Jesus Christ. This doesn't mean that if you see her in the supermarket, you are to turn around and walk in the other direction. The most important part of this process is love. If you snub her, she is going to think that you don't care about her. It just means that you should not plan on getting together with her for social functions and Thursday supper. Finally, you must take an awesome leap of faith and ask God to do whatever it will take to prevent the transgressor (your wife) from sinning. This is a scary concept, because it may be that God will allow your wife's body to be destroyed so that her soul may be spared. But which is more valuable? Your wife's body, which is temporary? Or your wife's soul, which is eternal? By willingly participating in acts that she most likely knows are sinful, your wife is rejecting Jesus Christ, therefore putting her eternal life in jeopardy. Remember that to love Jesus is to keep His commands. Gently point this out to her. May God be with you, your wife, and your children. And faithman, next time, try being a little more gentle in your approach. Name-calling is not an option that you should choose. |
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