But the scripture says point blank that we are not born again of our free will
John 1:12,13 But as many as recieved Him, to them gave He the power to become the sons of God, even them that believe on His name;
13] Which were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God.
and if born of the will of God, and not your will, what is the will of God?
John 6:35-40; 35] And Jesus said unto them,I am the bread of life: he that commeth to me shall never hunger; and he that believeth on me shall never thirst. 36]But I said unto you, That ye also have seen me, and believe not. 37] All that the Father giveth me shall come to me; and him that cometh to me I will in no wise cast out. 38] For I came down from heaven, not to do mine own will, but the will of Him that sent Me. 39] And this is the Father's will which hath sent me, that of all which He hath given me I should lose nothing, but should raise it up again at the last day. 40] And this is the will of Him that sent me, that every one that seeth the Son, and believeth on Him, may have everlasting life: and I will raise him up at the last day.